1.grappling,locks,throws,etc or 2.various kicks,jumps,rolls,etc

-if 1 then Aikido, if 2 then Hapkido

These are just names of styles. I'd go check them out and then pick the one with the better teacher. Styles don't guarantee good training, teachers do.

Hapikido appears more realistic in its training practices.

It would depend on which had the best instructor and if they both wee available.