I will say this. Stop comparing yourself with the others. There is no such thing as being being behind where you need to catch up in the dojo. No one in our dojo even if they start together do not all advance in rank at the same time. It is not like grammar school that everyone in June that passes get promoted to the next grade. Everyone learns at their own pace. Not all are tested at the same time. Everyone will not be ready at the same time.
If you want to train you will find a way to train. If your heart is not there you will find reasons to quit.
Bulldog there is right and if you want to do martial arts then continue. I know it must be hard to keep your motivation because of the situation but set that aside as much as you can. You don't say how old you are and in a few years or less the situation might change pretty drastically when you are older. Then parents sometimes want their own time and you will be old enough to stay home and probably sometimes have to for various reasons. Hang in there, sit down and explain to your instructor the problem so that he understands its not because of you yourself that you can't always come and try to make the best of it if you want to continue training and doing martial arts.
You don't sound like someone who is serious about martial art. You make a lot of claims about how much you were into it, yet, you did NOTHING when you did not attend class. It seems to me you are one of those students who only attends class, but do no training on their own. You think learning means just going to class and doing nothing at home to work on what you were taught. Ever heard of homework?
If you really did have passion for it, you would be spending hours practicing outside of class. And even if you were absent for a week or a month, you would not have been so far behind your peers that you would feel embarrassed.
Yes, I think you should quit. You are just wasting time and money.
I had a similar problem when I was a kid, my parents wanted me to take piano instead of martial arts. I went to piano when they made me, but I let them know that I absolutely hated it. I eventually had to stop going to martial arts in High School. After I moved out and worked on my own I was eventually able to afford it myself. Now I have my own school.
If you really love martial arts, then don't give up, go if you can, but even if your parents don't let you, just remember that you can pick it back up after you move out.
If you're passionate about martial arts, don't quit.
If you're not, then you shouldn't be doing martial arts.
Plain and Simple.
I wouldn't quit if your passionate about martial arts. You may just want to go until the end of the month and then quit, so your not quitting in the middle of the month. If you really want to quit, then just quit. It's all up to you!
Hello to all, I have a big Dilemma. I have been doing martial arts for 4 years. I have been constantly on and off the dojo because my parents do not want me to do martial arts and do not let me go for months. Then when I do go back, It's hard for me to catch up and I feel like I do not fit in. I love the ppl at the dojo. And use to like to spend time there, but recently I do not want to attend classes. Usually, I would be the one to beg my parents to let me go, now it's the opposite. I returned to the dojo after several months of not going and I knew it would not be easy. Some of the students that started before me, already outranked me. I thought I could deal with it, but I feel like I am already too far behind. All the students compete except me, because I spend more time out of the dojo than I do inside the dojo. I don't want to quit because I feel like a quitter, but my parents do not allow me to go often. My parents say that I can go in the summer because its gets darker later, but in the winter I can't. The problem is that in the summer they want to go to the beach or on their boat and I hate all of those activities and would much rather be at the dojo. I was recently tested for my blue belt and I know I failed. Today, I am suppose to go, but I do not want to. Should I just quit? Thank you and have all a great. :)
