If he is Asian, in their culture this is actually normal behavior. I am not making excuses for Asians but there are cultural differences that you need to understand when training with an Asian master. I would go to him and politely tell him that for you it is not acceptable that he disrespects your parents when your parents say you can not go. Asians understand that and that makes sense to them. You have to really learn their ways and play on their level if you want to make it in that school. Asians also give a whole new meaning to training. It is a 110% commitment all the time. They see us as being not committed and not dependable. I am sure he does not understand why your parents would not let you go compete as in China this would be an incredible opportunity and would help you in many areas not just sport. Martial arts in China is a privilege and many parents sacrifice a lot to send a child to a martial arts school because the discipline they learn there gives them a better chance to get into college or get a good paying job later on. Parents will both work long hours to send their child to martial arts boarding schools and then often not having the money for travel the child can stay there for years without ever seeing his parents but for many it is the only way out of poverty. They do not understand that for us martial arts is a hobby you do if you have free time.
If you can understand the cultural differences then it will be easier to understand your teacher's behavior. But your teacher also has to understand that this is not China and not going to a tournament is not the end of the world but many Chinese are very stubborn and set in their ways.
A really good Kung Fu teacher is very hard to come by so you might want to think about investing into the relationship and take the extra effort to come to a meeting point with your teacher. Pick his brain and learn about his culture as it will also broaden your horizon and help you understand your martial art better and then tell him about yours and the difference and how people see things here.
Both you and your teacher are in the wrong. He doesn't have the right to demand you attend every class and you should had informed him the moment you found out you could not go to the tournament instead of just keeping quiet - that was inconsiderate regardless of who or what the circumstances were.
It sounds like he expects a lot from you. That's a good thing. Going to a school where someone expects very little from you will not make you better. Keep training there and do your best to commit all of your time to it.
yes a gd instructor is vital.
i have been ti many kung fus bt none are gd teachers, till nw im stilling trying to find a gd teacher
I don't not think I feel if you look at this finger you miss all the heavenly glory. The mind is all we need not know.
So I've been going to Kung Fu for like 2/3 years and I show a really good effort! But the connection between my master is that he tends to push me a lot and sometimes gets angry every time I don't come to class ( Due to blocked schedules and stuff ). So this tournament came by and I told my master that I will go, but I made a huge mistake about not asking my dad, which means I can't go because of money problems. So later on that tournament, my master called my mom saying that where was I in a mean voice. My mom explained everything and he said " You have to train yourself not to act this way". So I'm wondering if anyone can tell me if I should stay or not go. I was also planning to go to a different school too.
