Sorry for the redundancy.
It really is all how you train so do finish reading this and give it some thought. For me I would have to say it was Karate for many reasons but it was not the style that taught me resilience it was without a doubt my teacher. I had several different teachers in Karate but not all of them taught resilience. As a matter of fact out of all those teachers only that one teacher taught resilience. From this one teacher not all student learned resilience even though it was taught to them but it was too hard to learn as resilience comes out of enduring inconvenience.
Resilience can be trained but it does start and comes mostly from within and from there it can carry over into your martial arts and everything else you do. In the almost 20 years that I have taught Karate passing this on and teaching kids resilience has gotten progressively difficult. We are so used to comfort and ease that we are increasingly more inconvenienced by smaller and smaller things.
There is the physical part of resilience. Finding a parking spot in the shopping mall where people circle the parking lot for minutes to find a parking spot close by rather than walk the distance. Our need for air conditioning is unbelievable. If we can not function anymore without air conditioning when it is hot (and I don't even live anywhere close to the desert, i.e. Arizona, Utah) how are we going to fight? We take the drive through rather than get out of the car and walk. We need a drink every 5 minutes when training and take 5 minutes for every drink we have to get.
Then there is the mental part. The media tells us that we have to be politically correct to not offend anybody and the smallest things are huge offenses and go viral. Offense is a choice. Whatever happened to suck it up and move on. I am definitely not for offending people but I am for being straight forward and honest and reality is that it does happen and is part of life and honesty is often offensive and you will not be able to please everybody.
We get offended at the smallest things someone says to us in the school yard and are offended by it and have to fight this person. resilience is also to let things roll off of you.
I think resilience starts with every day things, not just your martial arts training.
I did karate in my youth when I was more impatient - I didn't like the katas(series of movements against imaginary opponents that you had to repeat many, many times to improve your performance), then I stopped martial arts for a long time and after that I did tai chi which is nothing but a Chinese version of katas so that taught me patience I think which is a large part of resilience in my opinion.
The modern art of Aikido is purely defensive and the easiest way in which to stop an Aikidoka is to stop attacking him or her.
In Aikido, without the energy that uke provides by attacking nage there is no technique.
In Judo and other arts, one attempts in some fashion to begin a technique (in Judo, as an example, one often pushes or pulls his opponent so that when they react to the same the energy of that react may be used against them).
What oikoo said, and perhaps the Russian self defense: Systema. But that's more for killing, like Krav Maga, I believe it's called. Systema does teach resilience, I believe.
THE TRUE DEFENSIVE MARTIAL ARTS ARE THOSE USED BY THE ARMIES AROUND THE WORLD.
e.g.
israel = krav maga
russian= systema
south korea= teuk gong moosol
china = modernised combat kung fu
Aikido and other neijia or internal arts prioritize physical contact and reactions, rather than initiating the force.
Probably kodokan judo, which uses the opponent's strength against him.
Not defense as in self-defense, but defense as in resilience (going on the defensive and not being offensive).
Sorry for the redundancy.
