That being said, it was a trial period. Meaning you don't HAVE to keep going if you don't want to (or can't pay for it). Some full time students take on more than just a gym/MA class - some have families to take care of and jobs on the side and they make it work.
So to your friend and the instructor, you shouldn't use school as your only excuse. If you have a little bit of savings, maybe you can still go back for classes (maybe once a week instead? I know some places have more than 1 class per week). If not, but you really like it, get a part time job and go when you have free time.
It's not uncommon to see younger instructors; one of my friends is 32 and is a wrestling and MA instructor and works 2 other jobs to take care of his family. His school has a bunch of instructors, most of whom are between 30 and 40. Some styles have older instructors, so it really depends on the style and the school you go to.
It's not like you are a failure. They probably just thought it was pretty uncool that you said you'd come back, and then didn't, instead of being clear upfront that you weren't sure yet. Most martial artists make it a point not to go back on their word even if it's a small detail, unless there is a good reason.
Martial arts is not for everyone. I tell prospective students that they are free to try it, but it may not be their passion. I warn them that it takes long term commitment. I think that is fairer to everyone. No one feels coerced to join and we don't have to try and cajole reluctant students.
I think it shows a lack of class on their part. And a lost sale.
Treat it as such.
Yes that is typical of bjj, muay thai and mma, they are arrogant in that way
If a martial arts place has a free trial period does part of that mean you have to commit from that point and if you don't it will forever brands you as a failure?
I went to a Jiu Jitsu class with my friend just to see how it is (its free 30 days). I liked it, sure I was dead at the end but it felt great. However I didn't show up for the next class and the next class after that and so on. I told my friend I wasn't committing right now 1. I'm in school 2. I'm not working, but I told him and the instructor I will come back. Now I am being told from my friend and the instructor that I have no spirit no discipline, and i wont get anywhere with that mentality. (text msg)
I was actually going to go back, but now after hearing all that I don't even know if I want to learn any fighting style lol. I'm in my 20's and most of the instructors are in there 20's none are no older than 33.
I just want to hear out the community on the matter. All opinions welcome.
