The other thing I will do is I take the timid fighter and tell them they have to throw an offensive technique or combination every ten seconds and I count out loud as they spar. If they don't they owe me ten push-ups which they stop and do right then and there and then they resume sparring and me counting. They usually get tired of being chastised pretty quickly and doing those push-ups and after a few minutes of sparring and them responding to my counting to ten I then shorten it to eight and still later to six. By the time they get to where they are responding to about 5-6 they then are fighting at a pace and being aggressive enough and they have lost some of the fear and anxiety they once had and also started to develop their own internal clock in relation to this and how aggressive in general they should be trying to be and how active in their fighting. See if you can't develop your own internal clock by first counting to ten and then eventually shortening that to eight and then still later to six.
Along with these two things I sometimes have to help them modify their thinking and approach about all this in other ways. That can include them practicing their offensive skills and combinations and the speed of them and their understanding of them better. It might instead include us working on their foot work and ability to move and position themselves better in relation to their opponent as some really struggle with that aspect also which can cause them to hesitate or not be offensive enough. It can also include them just looking too hard or for too long for openings or expecting too much of an ideal situation or set of conditions for them to throw something and me correcting that and their thinking about it. Sometimes it can just be something as simple as what I call the "what if syndrome" and getting a student or fighter to realize they are too focused on that instead of being more offensive minded. That syndrome is like worrying about a person coming into the gym with an AK locked and loaded ready to shoot and while that does happen what are the chances of it really happening there and then? Instead focus and worry about the correct things-not the wrong ones.
Consider the above paragraph here and what I am saying in relation to your own mental approach to things as well as your physical skills and abilities in relation to all this. Work on those physical skills and abilities where needed and also change your mental approach and set your internal mental clock to throw every ten seconds to start with and decrease it gradually from there or get a more experienced and better trained sparring partner to try and help you out with some of this. Sometimes it takes addressing a combination of these things depending on the student or fighter or sometimes it is just one of these things basically that causes a person to be too timid and not aggressive enough.
Spar more to lose some fear but, I would guess you are learning it wrong, sparing I mean. Did they just toss you in one day and say spar? If so you will never learn to properly use the hits and kicks you learned. Sparing is good but it has to be started slowly in the class so you can ramp up. Just going full on with minimal practice all the techniques you know are forgotten and you, as most do, just flail about swinging and kicking wild. You should start slow using the hits and kicks to train your brain and muscle memory how and when to move. As you get comfortable you increase intensity so it should start very slow until both are utilizing techniques properly. This way when you get to real full speed sparing you won't just block, which most learn to do for all instances for some reason, and just randomly swing without power. Most videos on line of experienced guys show very poor technique and very little power in the strikes and kicks (look inexperienced mimicking what they think they should do) because they did not learn to spar properly.
I may be wrong, but it sounds like you still have some fear being hit. I would suggest doing drills where you have to respond immediately to being hit. One good drill is to close your eyes and have someone hit you with a pad, and then you have to immediately hit back and combo. Once you get over your fear of being hit then you'll improve in your sparring. Another thing is to view sparring as a learning opportunity. view it as a class on how to find things that work. When you view it as a way to learn it sometimes helps because you'll be willing to take hits to learn effective fighting. Also, just do some exercises to calm yourself before the spar, breathe deeply and slowly before the match and mentally steel yourself to be ready to learn as best you can by trading blows with your opponent. I hope this helps. Everyone is different, so it may or may not.
sparring is the best time to be building your confidence, after all your not fighting for anything other than improvement. Remember confidence is 100% in your head, maybe if you straighten your back and hold your head a little high it might make a bit of a difference. All in all you need to tell yourself to just do it because the worst thing that can happen is getting countered or blocked but thats not so bad when you're sparring. After a failed attempt just learn from the mistake and change your technique, when you do so you slowly start to improve and this will result in boosting your confidence
your a passive fighter... all fighters should fight with some fear and aggression.. these are the two basic rules.. having a clear mind and not thinking of what the other person is going to do will help
Sigh is not a sword but bats are are illegal weapons if you want a feloeck on your recro so use a nun chu instead in 1874 is when chuck norris knew.
So basically every single time I spar or fight I barely ever throw hits. Like I only defend myself and throw hits every once in a while. I just want to know a way to get more confident when sparring and fighting, coz sometimes I'm like scared of the opponent in a way. Its not fear OF the opponent its more what the opponent DOES to me that scares me and how all I think about is defending myself and not being offensive. HELP THANKS!
