We can't control the actions of others. By that I mean we as in the universal "we". The "martial arts teachers" and finally you!
The bottom line is that if you don't like someone's behavior then being respectful and keeping your distance makes sense.
I've taken Shorinji Ryu Jujitsu and I've studied Gumdo Iaido for years now and even trained my step son and his friends so that they could go do theri little cage fighting MMA thing. The one thing I was always big on was teaching them and keeping their minds focused on "modesty". Modesty and humilty go hand and hand with any kind of "self-defense" system and the reason is because you're confident enough to know how to handle yourself and you know that there's more to life than convicing people how tough you are. A tough guy doesn't go around talking or trying to prove how tough he is if anything he's a very modest person as he should be. I started to notice that when my step son and his friends were doing MMA that the kids' teams were awefully "mouthy" and majorly full of the kind of "arrogance" that doesn't go hand and hand with a traditionalist's way of thinking. Maybe the kid you're talking about lacks "modesty" because he has something going on in his youth he isn't discussing publicly. Usually "Bullies" are only bullies because no one has put them to the test and shown them that they're not what they think they are. There must be some kind of underlying issue in the kid's life you're talking about that makes him want to feel "important", "superior", "tough". He must lack real "confidence" or he wwouldn't be acting that way. Just because some one takes a matrial arts class on a weekly basis for years upon years doesn't mean that they are undeatable either. He's just as human as you or I. If he didn't lack confidence he wouldn't need to put on such a big act in order convince himself and others that he is all that he thinks he is.
How to deal with people like this? Be your normal self. Having a bad attitude is their problem. Don't make it yours by 'dealing' with it.
Yes, teachers usually teach kids not to fight or bully but there is no way to control everybody's behavior. Probably because he was bullied himself he found a way to get out from being bullied and it worked for him so it stuck with him. Self preservation mechanism to survive bullying, I guess. Now he has to learn how to be a nice person too. That takes trust and the realization that you can be a nice person without getting bullied. It's a learning process.
My opinion is martial arts teachers job is to teach you the techniques and when to use it. Its up to you how to use them. You can be a bully and beat everyone else until a better fighter knocks you down or any other lots of things.
Being a real warrior is, to stand up for the things you love and embrace.
Being a bully is just being an *** i dont like bullies.
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I've known a guy for a long time that learned martial arts in middle school. It's been over 10 years since he's been to martial arts gym, but since I've known this guy he's been the biggest bully. He always talks to one of his best friends in a condescending way, almost as if the the guy is dirt. He walks around like he's some big tough guy that everyone should respect.The funny thing is that I found out from someone that knew him a lot longer than me that he was bullied in elementary school. Then after learning martial arts his attitude changed. I thought that martial arts teachers teach their students to avoid fights and be peaceful. We are still friends, but I don't hang around him that much anymore for that reason. We used to get into a lot of arguments because of his attitude, but I still miss our friendship. Can someone give me advice on how to deal with people like this?
