Sometimes this would be innocent in nature and sometimes not. An example of it being innocent would be a 7-8 year old practicing with his little sister or brother or maybe on the family pet and of course its anything but fun for them. They usually have no idea why their older brother or sister might be punching and kicking at them and of course the family pet is even more confused about all this. A talk from me then would be enough to alter their behavior because I would just be honest and upfront and tell them if it continued I would not be able to teach them martial arts any more.
With teens it sometimes is a case of them wanting to test their new skills out and that might be with a friends or maybe even with someone that has bullied them in the past. Getting them to understand and realize that with their new skill and knowledge also came increased responsibility of thinking about when and where they should employ that also was something that I always did so I usually would not have a lot of problems with this in them either.
One of the things I found useful in helping even younger students to understand this was using the example of an officer with his side arm. Most children realize that an officer does not draw and fire his weapon every day or every time he has an encounter with someone. They have seen enough people pulled over for a traffic violation or some other such thing and maybe even a parent of theirs pulled over with them along and in the car. That weapon is there to be used if needed but there also are often many conditions and circumstances that exclude that level of serious force being employed and so an officer does not always draw his weapon. It is there at the ready but to be used only if its needed and required. It is really just a short step to getting them to look at their own skills, knowledge, and ability in the same way. This and the fact that if every situation dictates them lashing out in a physical way probably means that there is something wrong with them is enough to get them to stop and think a little before really being too aggressive usually. It helps them to understand that there is a line here that they have to walk while weighing out and balancing things and in determining if its appropriate or not to take some aggressive action or behave in an aggressive way is what I have found.
Now I have had a few newer type students that the above was not the case and those individuals were people who sometimes had also been diagnosed with behavioral problems. There are indeed some that should not be taught martial or fighting arts just like there are those that should not own a gun or be given a job where they carry a gun. People with antisocial and oppositional type disorders for instance and I refuse to teach those types because they then pose a greater danger to themselves, me, and the rest of mainline society. If they were such that I would not want them for a neighbor living next to me because of the way they behaved and acted towards others then why would I want them for a student and make them more capable of injuring and hurting others has always been my approach so that I usually did not have a lot of problems with this and my students?
Na, I'm all sugar and spice and everything nice...
and it takes a-lot to get on my bad side. A whole lot.
I've been training for 13 yrs so far and I don't think my training as made me anymore of an aggressive person. But if I did have to fight I will fight very aggressively if need be.
As a whole, the purpose of martial arts is to not instill aggression and rage into the student/practitioner.
No true martial artist ever wants to resort to violence.
But if the occasion arises...
Personality wise - if the fighting is the main attraction, then hopefully some of the doctrine and discipline will calm and control inner demons.
A lot of excess energy and wrong headedness will be knocked out one way or another. Pity for some that they need to learn the hard way.
Self control is key to any long lasting success, which is the measure of the man/woman.
I am thinking of a modern approach to Boxing where the skill, strength and endurance is nothing without cool headed strategy and respect.
Otherwise it remains thuggery.
well I think it depends on the teaching of the master... I like to say force instead of aggression.. simply because you learn what is needed in a fight... not always is throwing a punch or a kick the best.. you can sub do people with locks or grappling with out physical harm... to harm some one badly yes this is done with aggression.. being non aggressive is not a bad thing... over aggressive people don't last long in martial arts cause its not about physical harm but to betters one self in all parts of life inside martial arts and outside of martial arts..
You do not need to fight kids who bully you. It is not worth it in the end, in the world we live in today, you will end up being the bad person. But to answer the question no it will not, join the wrestling team, with wrestling its either be aggressive and go for your take down or be taken down and lose.
Practicing martial arts DOES NOT make you more aggressive. It will boost your confidence considerably. Join a good dojo; listen to your sensei and follow his/her instructions to the letter. Never be afraid to ask your sensei questions; you will gain enlightenment as you progress.
Does martial matilla make sense I cant believe martials know how minds not think.
Well, I am strong according to my peers, but I am completely the opposite to aggressive. I reported the last and only time someone tried to bully me rather than fighting him, and yes, that's fine, but I know that when I am a completely alone individual, I will have no one around and my life could be at risk (or maybe even fight on the last year of high-school). I know that I could beat people up and I was a lot more aggressive in the elementary school, and I don't know why I changed in such a (bad) way in the middle of middle-school and now (high-school). Like every other normal person, it shouldn't be hard to knock someone out, but I think I know what my problem is: I am insecure about my moves, and that currently makes me nervous of my future.
Since I am insecure about my moves; will joining Karate and practicing real fights, make me more aggressive, or at least a secure fighter? And by secure fighter, I mean a person that will not think twice when to punch someone affecting you.
So again; will martial arts make me more aggressive, and secure about my moves & strength?
PS: I wouldn't mind getting beaten up at Karate if it means I will become more aggressive, or trust myself. Also, getting beaten up (I've never been beaten up, which may be the reason why I am not aggressive) would mean that I would learn my weak-points.
One more thing: By "being aggressive", I mean being aggressive when I have to, not always (in fights, life-threatening situations, etc).
